![]() ![]() Just because you stay with in-laws does not mean your husband can wash his hands off his responsibility towards you or your children All the best and I'm so glad to see a strong independent woman like you! You are doing a wonderful job by supporting your family! Kudos to you!! It's not very healthy for kids to grow up seeing the mother slogging, husbands need to share the load as they say, financially and with kids. Try counselling if one to onetalks don't help 3. ![]() He may avoid talking or may not understand your point, but you should voice your opinion nonetheless. ![]() You need to talk to your husband about this after deciding what you want. It doesn't sound right and the fact that you posted this, you are also thinking - why does this not feel good 2. Few things I can say based on how I'm trying to handle the situation 1. I feel really sorry how good, independent women are being taken for granted these days. And I pay all household expenses, including the rent :) But what pulls me through is that I have enough savings and my own house and trust in God. I have a similar story but am somehow spared the in-laws torture and have very supportive parents. Hi Deepti, I'm speechless after hearing your story. My inlaws keep telling me that all the daughter in laws does all this, and I should be happily doing all this, to which I am really unsure what is happening to me :( Let me know, where I go wrong because I do not have other family members (my parents) whom I can share my feelings, and can guide me. My husband mentions as he is providing me with house to live (so I do not have to pay any rent). In the expenses that I incur there are no contribution given to me by my husband, as his earnings goes to his parents. My mil helps me in cooking dinner, she overlooks maids as they do their chores. Apart from this, electricity bill and the personal expenses of inlaws are taken care by themselves. She then keeps nagging me on the grocery items which gets over earlier. If he and her wives fights, he comes to eat with us along with his children. Apart from all these, I get groceries considering 8 members (members of my house), but my second bil who lives near by keeps on coming and picks up anything he fall shot in his house for e.g.: Onions, wheat flour, soap, any cooked food. I bear the following expenses for my house: Groceries, gas, vegetables, milk, children fess, their traveling allowance, maids (as I am working I have one to handle my kids and other for sweeping and utensils), children tuition fees. My second brother in law lives near by to our house, with his wife and 2 kids. Here is my story: I live in join family- Me, my husband, 3 kids, fil, mil and brother-in law. I feel I am drained, not sure if I am wrong but just wanted to share what I feel. Hello All, I am now a days a bit confused on how to handle finances within joint family. ![]()
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